How do I tell others how I hear?

Has anyone ever been to Wild Acres Brewery in Fort Worth? I love that it’s dog friendly. As soon as I walked in, someone was celebrating their dog’s birthday. All decked out with a birthday cap and bandana. Poor dog.

Too bad none of you are here to enjoy with us.

So….How do I tell people how I hear?

But…I don’t?

Here’s the thing. Every deaf or hard of hearing person is no where close to being same or that much different.

It’s not rocket science.

It’s not the same because we don’t hear on the same level as other deaf individuals because of different hearing losses. We don’t hear on the same level hearing individuals because one IS DEAF and with hearing aids, it is amplified. It helps you hear.

Do you know someone with nearsightedness vs farsightedness see perfectly clear as you with contacts or glasses? You put their glasses on and it’s all the sudden “holy shit why is this more blurry?!”

You don’t have the same prescription.

Just like you don’t have the same hearing loss as others.

All I’m saying is, how we hear is hard to explain. How you treat us, how you communicate, how you interact is how we can hear you just fine.

Hashtag just be kind to others.

Personal Hearing Aids Q&A Vlog

Answering a few questions readers and viewers have on hearing aids!

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Where Are You From?

Where are you from?

It’s a very common question.

I’ll explain and I usually get “Oh…that makes sense” reply. Does it really? Because you just made a judgmental call when you asked me where I’m from. I’m not from England. Or Germany. Or Australia. I was born deaf, in America. You can give me the stares all day long.

In reality, the looks and questions you ask us can make us insensitive when we can do nothing about the way or how we use our voice or even answer your questions that you have no idea what you’re talking about.

Here’s another. “Why don’t you sign?”

It’s a choice. I actually do know American Sign Language. But why don’t you sign? Oh wait you don’t know how to. Hahaha. So here I am speaking English with an “accent”. A language I worked so hard on for 9 years. Wait no. All my life. Exclamation point.

I’m going to be real blunt here for a minute. Who needs a class on Latin language in High School when they should offer American Sign Language? Don’t get me wrong Latin is great if you want to be an expert on dead languages. But do it in college. Okay, please don’t kill me. Here me out. Who speaks Latin these days? Okay, it is a beautiful language and it’s like poetry. But ASL is a beautiful language as well. ASL is perfect. Not to mention how EASY it is to learn. It provides community within the community of hearing loss. No barriers, no awkward stares, no awkward communications, no writing down on note pads, no yelling at us, no super-slow-speaking-just-so-we-can-understand-you-sh!t and ecetera ecetera!

Just be a decent human.