2019 Recap

I have nothing but love for 2019. I look forward to 2020 with a lot of gratitude and hopes.

First, Justin took up a job 1335 miles from home. We rang in 2019 in freezing Lake Placid, NY. We sold our country house in Virginia, packed up everything, and moved south to unknown territories. We stopped and enjoyed Nashville on the way. Patriots won another Super Bowl. One of my best friends got married in New Orleans. Soon after we moved into a temporary apartment, Jameson got hit by a car and dodged a bullet from it just fine. We bought a new construction home right away. I got a job working two different offices full time. We flew to Boston for Roderick’s 40th birthday bash. We took up hot yoga. I started That Deaf Girl Vlogs. We spent our 6 year anniversary back in Bluemont, VA where we got married. I became pregnant with our first child. I began Birthfit workouts in our garage gym. My dear mother had a double stroke and miraculously, thankfully survived. I began to find out scary things were happening during my pregnancy and fell into a dark place for a while but also had so many positives moving forward. We moved into our brand new home. We did a maternity shoot in heart of Waco, Texas. We saw Joe Rogan and ZBB live. We explored so much of the Fort Worth/Dallas area and have new found love for it. Thanksgiving was spent in Houston with our good friend Holly and the boys. We had an awesome remote Baby Shower. Justin received a promotion and took up Brazilian jiu jitsu. We enjoyed our first warm Christmas in Texas with Justin’s sister and our nephew.

I know there’s so many more I could add on to this blog post.

I could not think of a better way to close out the year than spend our last night alone with the three pups, surf and turf dinner and a brownie gnocchi with ice cream dessert.

This year has taught me many wonderful lessons. I’m thankful for the extreme hardships and amazing blessings.

2020, let’s do this!

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Last year I shared a list of wisdoms I’ve learned over the years on 32.

This year has been a crazy, wild ride. Between selling our beautiful home, moving during a blizzard, traveling a thousand miles to a new home in an unknown location, meeting new people, new jobs, new living situations, and growing a life.

I’m continuously grateful for how far I’ve come. I’ve shared some of my past wisdoms as well as new ones.

1- Make room in your heart for the unimaginable. Always believe in miracles.

2- Do what scares you. I say this all the time. I’ve longed to speak on a special needs platform and finally submitted a proposal on a whim. Stay tuned.

3- Don’t let the bad outweigh the good.

4- Change is good! Just look on the bright side of the future.

5- Life is really too short and precious. Never take anything for granted.

6- Take pictures. Always. Be notorious for random ones. They’re the best.

7- Never stress on the tiniest stuff. Let it go and see what kind of magic returns in its place.

8- It’s okay to have emotions and be vulnerable. Never bottle them up and always remember it’s okay to cry.

9- Stop comparing yourself to others. You are who you are and always have been. Just believe it.

10- Do take care of your mental health.

11- Date night in doesn’t have to be boring. Be creative. Order Hello Fresh in, cook it together and put on a movie while you eat.

12- Keep exploring and see what the world has to offer. While this might be on hold for a while, more research and saving for us!

13- Do check out the local restaurants. If you’re a fun foodie like me, I’m always checking out the new flavor in town! And no, fast food chains don’t count.

14- Technology is amazing. Keep in touch with your friends and family near and far. Always keep them close to your heart.

15- Do take social media breaks. In fact, take several.

16- Be passionate about something bigger than yourself. It inspires growth.

17- Know that there is always light out of the darkness. Whatever rock bottom you hit, the top is just waiting for you to shine. When the time is right.

18- I truly believe everything happens for a reason. It will always work out because it’s meant to be. When it doesn’t, know that there’s always something bigger for you, just need to close the door for the next one to open.

19- Always remind yourself how far you’ve come. Be proud of the fact that you’re taking the path that was paved for you.

20- Please floss. Daily.

21- Never let grief take over and always choose hope.

22- Let mean people be mean. Life has a way of bringing them into your life to challenge you and make you a better person out of it.

23- Always trust your dog when it doesn’t like a person. For real.

24- Kindness alway goes a long way. Treat others how you would want to be treated.

25- Don’t let your disability define who you are as a person – Even though it may seem like denying the power and overwhelming significance of the experiences in my life, you’re not insulting yourself, not weak, not asking for sympathy. You’re you. See the person first, disability second.

26- Aspire to inspire others. Whether it’s sharing your story or smiling for no reason.

27- Trust your gut.

28- Keep chasing that dream of yours and don’t be afraid to share it. Here’s mine. I always aspire to keep auditioning and one day model for Sports Illustrated. It will be on hold for quite some time. Until then, keep reaching for the stars.

29- Be picky about vibes and energy you surround yourself with. You owe yourself that much.

30- Sarcasm and cursing is always okay in my book. Keep being you.

31- Keep smiling. I mean it. It’s always a good day when you see others smile.

32- You are not required to house someone else’s feelings. Take it easy on yourself.

33- Always love and love hard.

6 Things for 6 Years

Ever since I wrote 5 Things for 5 Years, I told myself to write top things I’ve learned each year during my marriage, adding one for each year.

This year has definitely had a lot of lessons for us. A new job, a big move 1,300 miles away, and living in a small apartment. Facing the unknown has been very scary. It has made us stronger and ready for anything that life throws at us.

For our 6 year anniversary, we decided to make the trip back home to Virginia. It’s always great to see our close friends and revisit our favorite spots but it definitely made us real homesick for a few days.

And for this blog post….better late than never.

1- Communication! It’s always hard for me to get my feelings out right away. I get upset easily if he’s frustrated with something. Especially if it deals with something personal. He’s only human but so am I. I have to think about what I want to say before I make a point without saying anything rash. And he’s learning to be patient with how I communicate. It takes work.

2- Make each other’s decisions for each other. My husband has voiced for a long time that he’s unhappy with the commute and I’ve long supported him on his job search. Once he found a fitting job, it was a rollercoaster of “yes” and “no”. I realized he needs someone in his corner to put his foot down and make the decision for him. Even though it meant major sacrifices.

3- It’s okay to cry. This year was probably our hardest to date. While I’ve been behind him all this time, I kept a lot of feelings in. I fought hard to stay strong and keep my eyes open. But damn, you just need to cry it out and let it go. As hard as it may seem, that opportunity removed the invisible wall we had, brought us closer and more understanding of each other than before.

4- Have patience. I noticed since we moved from a big house with a yard to a small apartment with daily multiple dog walking, my fuse was ready to blow. Alas, we do have a beautiful big home we’re building. It’s coming. I’m learning to be better at patience. I’m constantly learning to go with the flow. Embracing precious time and learning life doesn’t always go as planned.

5- Laugh. When it comes to blowbacks, I always try to laugh and believe that it can turn a lot of things around if you don’t let it hang over your head. I’ve noticed Justin can get easily frustrated over the smallest things and I can tell he notices he wants to try to laugh things off like I do. It’s okay to smile.

6- I realized how important it is to look ahead and see a bright future. What’s behind doesn’t define today. Always change for the best. Most importantly, I’m still learning to be me. Not that I never knew who I am or was, that it’s okay to be me. That it’s okay to be where we are, to enjoy the little things today.


On a side note, I had forgotten how much fun designing your house is. It’s our third home we’ve owned and as much as I didn’t want to leave our last house, this one is going to be amazing. Another blank canvas for me to decorate! A better garage gym! An amazing kitchen and bigger laundry room! What more could this deaf girl ask for?

It’s only been 3 months into the move. While we’re constantly exploring what Texas has to offer, awaiting our home to be built with a yard that’s perfect for our dogs, I have a real good feeling next year will be our best year yet!

Stay tuned!